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Cory,
It sounds like you've been around the block and might have heard talk of such things: what is the deal with sugar daddies? How hard are they to find? Where does one get one? How much of one's liberty must one expect to relinquish in exchange for, say, free rent? Is there such a thing as a sugar mommie? (I won't bother asking about sugar trannies).
I'm tired of selling my soul to corporations for 40 to 60 hours a week. Am I nuts to consider renting my skin to a discerning, mature, and generous person in exchange for a little this and that?
Starving Student Seeking Sustenance through Sex (Sensibly)
Dear SSSSTS(S):
To answer your questions, we must examine tyrannies rather than trannies, so you are right not to bother asking about the latter. Gender dysphoria and its frightening sequelae are not something Cory cares to consider without being well paid – it’s just too postmodern.
The first tyranny, as you know all too well, is administered by corporations, whose ridiculous expectations of their employees’ conformity and servility are only increasing now that unions have been busted and outsourcing to slaves in poorer countries has driven down the cost of labour. Cory wonders how the vassals in retail, for example, who suffer the added indignity of being called sales associates as if they somehow shared in the big box’s profits, manage to house and feed themselves on what they are paid. One of the most unintentionally honest phrases in the last thirty years is “trickle down economics”. The trickle was bad enough, now it’s barely a drip.
The second tyranny is the tyranny of looks. It seems bred in us that we just can’t wait to seek out, reward and insert ourselves into the good looking. Yet the needs of the unbeautiful are no less piquant than those of the beautiful and even the loveliest of us are subject to the vagaries of aging.
Given the contamination of our society by a money mentality – soi-disant free enterprise -- and the merchandizing of everything, Cory is hard put to think of a relationship that does not have a financial aspect to it (we read now how much it costs to raise a child, for example). The unbeautiful person who wishes to leverage some intimacy from a beautiful person is certainly no rarity, nor is the beautiful person, such as yourself, who is ready to go on special. The methods and labels vary.
Let us say that you provide enthusiastic intimate services for someone while you both know that this is not something you particularly want to do. Acting skill is necessary. How is this different from showing up at a job you despise on a Monday morning and acting as if you cared about the laughable mission statement and the dangerous product you’re selling, excepting that your genitals are still inside your polyester uniform? God knows, a corporation will use all your other organs. What concerns Cory on your behalf is that both situations are potentially corrosive to you. It will be much better if you like the person for whom you are providing the services, and you have a mutually respectful relationship. Life is full of things we don’t want to do, but they are leavened by the goodwill of those around us, just as an awful job is made tolerable by amusing co-workers.
You are a student. No matter your age, if you are a student you are by definition half-educated, fresh, partly feral – and therefore to be forgiven any mistakes. Experiment! If you decide to market your student allure, you will first need a very different resume. It could be three-dimensional. Cory suggests that you then peruse the apparently abundant supply of those who style themselves “generous” on the internet and in other media. HHCIB’s comely phalanx of research assistants tells Cory that this is a code for “really quite unattractive, but willing to pay for sex”. Such persons are nearly always male; sugar mommies tend to favor young prisoners who will abuse them after release in a September-May marriage parody. Then, in your interviews, rather than focusing on the contractual aspects of acts, frequency, time off and other boring details, decide whether or not you and your sugar person could conceivably be honest about needs and form a warm, respectful relationship. Cory has faith that the rest will flow from there.
Cory is not entirely sure he likes the phrase “been around the block” applied to his dewy person.
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